Foozbear I can relate to your style of umpiring. I think the majority of players across the spectrum of standards prefer an umpire who is approachable. In saying that there is a time in a game when the soft skills have to be put to one side and the dictitorial dynamic umpire in you has to come to the fore. In the incident you discribe you have exhausted all avenues to determine what the decision should be, perhaps this is one time when you have just got to sell a decision to players, based on what your observations are of the particular incident in question. I would contend that if you have not seen the attack touch the ball in the circle because of the position of you in relation to the play and the goalkeeper don't give the goal. You have just got to determine what you can do differantly next time to avoid being exposed like that again. (Not easy I know but self analysis is a huge facet of umpiring). I am wondering if your pre match chat with both captains prior to this particular game had the desired effect, because it may be a contributing factor in the 'confusion' that seemed to ensue at this incident.